AITA I’m a mother to 7 children, all grown except for my last who is 8. Of all my children 5 are my biological children and the last 2 adopted out of foster care. My 2 eldest children were raised by their father’s family. (Father was abusive to me, so I took my kids and left the state they were born. Later to have my kids taken from me via court orders. I would not return to the abuse to me, and he never abused the kids, so they had to return to the state they were born for me to fight for custody, but I wouldn’t return in fear of the abuser and lost custody and had very little parenting time, which I couldn’t and didn’t attend because it was 1 day a month for 6 hours and they lived 21 hours away.) My 2 eldest finally started coming to visit and one moved to the state I was in. We had a great restart! In 2008 I became a licensed single parent and home for foster children. I fostered 35 children through love and home, out of those I adopted my first foster child and then adopted my last. Bringing my family to 7 children! I’ve been a single mom most my life not because of trauma but because I knew the value of growing my children without another parent. Although tough at times, we survived and with a lot less stress. Reason I ask if aita, is because I fostered my last as a newborn straight out of the hospital at 3 days and for the reasons he could not be reunited ever with his bio family, I chose to adopt him and we’ve never looked back! I love this young boy with all my heart as though I birthed him myself! Unfortunately, my 3 eldest children whom all have my grandkids have distanced themselves from me and my son, because of my decision to adopt my son. They say because I should first be a mom to my bio family “blood” as they say! I have always been a good mom and grandma! Taking trips to see them, taking them on trips with me or meeting them all for family trips! The adoption was final at 18 months and he is now 8. My eldest still have an issue with my decision and have not accepted my decision. Although I adopted another child who is now 26. They don’t have a problem with her, just that I have an 8 year old at home at my age, “when I should be more of a mom and grandma to my bio family” what they tell me. That my adopted son is not blood therefore he isn’t their family and I should “leave him aside when visiting my other kids”. This won’t happen because he is my son regardless of how he became my son, he will never be cast aside for any reason! My other 3 youngest adult daughters (one of which is the other adopted) do not have a problem with my decision and in fact have always supported me as well as attended foster classes and may become foster families in their future. I’m thankful I have had all my children! My eldest adult children won’t talk to me or allow me to see my grandkids but I can talk to my grandkids on the phone. (Sometimes FaceTime). I have decided that I won’t visit them and have stopped contacting because I don’t feel comfortable with a relationship with them any longer! I’m a mom always and will always accept them when they do come back but choose to keep my sanity and peace in my later years over stressing over the limits and conditions my adult children put on me because of my 8 year old son! AITA for not having a relationship with my eldest adult children because of my 8 year old son?