I (26F) met my ex-boyfriend (26M), Voldemort, on the app BOO last June. We started as friends, and a month later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I accepted.

It was a long-distance relationship, so we video-called every other day. Eventually, I met his best friend, Lorenzo (23M). Despite past drama between them (not my story to tell), Lorenzo joined some of our calls, and we got along well.

Two weeks after my birthday, everything fell apart. Voldemort started acting distant and ghosted me for a day. The next day, he messaged: “Are you able to call?” I said, “Sure, give me twenty minutes.”

When he called, his voice was off. Then came the dreaded: “We need to talk.”

Even after we started dating, Voldemort kept using BOO to meet gamers. That’s how he met another girl (19F), Lucifer. He told me about her early on, and I wasn’t worried since I’m not the jealous type. On the call, however, he admitted she’d developed feelings for him and that her living nearby made a physical relationship more “accessible.”

I was heartbroken. I reminded him he was doing exactly what someone had done to him in a past relationship, and leading on someone who clearly liked him while he was taken, to me, that’s emotional cheating. He rambled about his “dilemma” for an hour, but I called BS and ended it.

Afterward, I messaged Lorenzo to let him know we’d broken up and that it had been nice meeting him. He was surprised and said he thought Voldemort had finally been in a healthy relationship. He apologized on Voldemort’s behalf and wished me the best.

The first few days were awful; I cried nonstop and barely ate. Eventually, I messaged Lorenzo again to ask if Voldemort had moved on with Lucifer. Lorenzo kindly told me that three days after our breakup, Voldemort was already dating her. That sent me into rage mode. Lorenzo offered to call so I could vent, and afterward, he told me I could reach out anytime if I needed someone to talk to.

Over the next two months, Lorenzo and I kept talking and became genuine friends. We bonded over shared interests and analyzed Voldemort’s toxic behavior together. Lorenzo eventually decided to cut ties with him entirely after realizing Voldemort was repeating toxic patterns that would inevitably drag him into drama again.

In December, we planned a confrontation; for me, it was closure; for Lorenzo, it was the final nail in the coffin of their friendship. The night of the call, we waited for an hour before he texted: “Sorry, I ended up f****ng Lucifer.”

When he finally called expecting only Lorenzo, he was shocked to hear my voice too. Together, we confronted him about his behavior: pursuing younger girls, streaming disturbing deep web content, and randomly bringing up sexual kinks unprovoked. After the call, we blocked him everywhere and never looked back.

As of now, neither of us has heard from him or anyone in his circle. Lorenzo and I have remained very close friends.

So am I the asshole?