A couple of years ago, I met a woman through my best friend. She wasn’t from my country, but it felt like I’d known her forever. We had these deep, soulful conversations about life, purpose, legacy, and faith, stuff that made me feel truly seen. She was naturally beautiful, but it was her mind and spirit that made her unforgettable.

I wasn’t ready for something serious back then, and to be honest, I led her on. I also had a hard time with the fact that she smoked cigarettes (it turned me off), and I never communicated that properly (I was always saying it don't matter and I will support you in this). Eventually, things fell apart, and she didn’t forgive me. I own my part in that.

Fast forward to now, I’ve been in a relationship for a while with a great woman. She’s kind, supportive, and always listens. But I find myself missing the depth of those past conversations. My current girlfriend doesn’t seem that into philosophical or introspective talks. When I bring something deep up, she just listens and agrees with what I say, but there’s not much back and forth or curiosity from her side.

I haven’t brought this up directly because I don’t want to sound like I’m comparing her to someone from my past. I know that’s unfair. But I can’t help feeling like something meaningful is missing.

So…

AITA for missing a deep connection from my past while being with someone who loves me but doesn’t connect with me on that level? Should I be trying harder to build that connection in my current relationship? Anyone ever felt like that or I'm alone in this.