tdlr, roommate asked for space on our shared couch and moved the couch decor i bought but also ended up moving my cat’s scratching post and bed on the floor right in front of the litter box. so i moved it back.

pics: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-QcnyKYznQI2Hmw5o8EMcqPr_rEQyHEdK2jDvL1fvQw/edit

out of nowhere two days ago, my (20F) roommate (25/26F) (we live in upperclassmen dorm) sends me a paragraph at 11pm at night about how she’s mentally unwell because she feels she’s been cleaning up the kitchen the most and i’m not helping.

i pointed out to her that she cooks a big dinner every single day so it would make sense she’s cleaning more. i’m literally gone from 7am to 7pm in the day and when i come back home, i pop something in the microwave, throw away the wrappers, and eat in my room. if i cook a meal, that’s once every 2-3 weeks and i clean up after myself. i told her that our roommate agreement stated we don’t split chores (unless it’s something we both actively use like taking out the trash or wiping down the fridge), we clean up after ourselves, which includes after cooking meals.

she just went on an entire tangent and i told her i hear her, but i disagree. i told her i would be more mindful of the space and clean when needed (she also complained about their being food particles in the sink after washing). i also said we could speak with the CA to review our agreement but i doubt it could be changed with 4 weeks before we both move out. that was all that day.

now yesterday, she randomly texts me about moving my stuff under our shared kitchen sink (which has my potting supplies) and asks for space on the couch that has my couch decor. to be clear, she moved into this dorm late january and i’ve been here since 2022, so of course this space has accumulated my decor. i told her when she first moved in, feel free to use my stuff or move stuff around to feel comfortable. she mentioned once she would like to place something on the kitchen table so i moved what i had onto my kitchen counter. that was all. we both move out in like 4 weeks.

after our convo (pics), she ended up moving my stuff around on the couch, which was fine, but moved my cat’s scratching post and bed right in front of the litter box? as you can see from the pics, this is already a small living room space, and she asked for space (and got it) on the couch. let me know if i’m missing something but i don’t know why she moved it.

so i sent her a text this am and told her i dont know why she moved my cat’s stuff and in front of the litterbox at that. i told her i moved it back and dont expect it to be placed in front of the litterbox again, where my cat cant even use it. i told her she can talk to me about it face to face if she had any issues. AITA??