We've had this friend for a while, who I'll call H (H uses she/they/he pronouns btw). And good god she was toxic. We had another friend, F (he/they), who was good friends with H for a long time and the two dated a couple of times. We had to kick out H because they were pretty emotionally and mentally abusive to F and my other friends, including me. H would play with our feet without consent and he would take pictures of them and make cutesie edits 'as a joke' and he would send it to us. No matter how many times we told her to stop, they wouldn't. My friend F did a ton of SH, and when him and H were dating, F would vent to them as a way to get it out of their system. H did not care at all and would never help them to the point it got way worse. H also would try to turn my trauma and their trauma into a competition, I am a SA victim, and H would make claims such as 'my dad touched me', and F said 'I've known him since forever and he's never said this before'. H would make jokes about that all the time when I bring up what happened to me. She was also just straight up mean. When my friend S (she/her) or C (he/they) would just do anything, They would give them weird looks or kick them out of the group for no reason. A couple months back, in the fall of last year, she manipulated F into leaving our group and making statements like "J (he/him) is too clingy" and "J and Layton (me) are secretly dating (not true)" and the group was basically destroyed for a couple days, then we all got back together. A few weeks ago we got our friend S to tell them that we don't want to be friends anymore. And H says and quote "fine. I didn't want to be friends with you guys anyways", so we got her off our back and thought we'd be golden after that. But no, they started to hang out with the popular girls (L, B, K, and J). B makes rumors like "they probably wear all those bracelets because they all cut (not true)" (she actually said that once), J (other j not my friend) called S fat and is also slightly transphobic, K is usually nice but it's common knowledge she doesn't like us (she's L's younger sister), and L just doesn't like us because we actually have personality. H has been telling those 4 the watered down version basically victimizing themselves. Online H has called us 'jerks' despite all of the things he's done. So I'm asking reddit to see if we're in the wrong, hoping to hear y'all's responses