Im 26f married to husband 33m for over a year now. From the uk. Im peed off because my husbands mum asks him for money every month. Partner and I are saving together to buy a house and though she doesn't ask for much but we still struggle because of it. Today she asked for 40£, last month she asked for £150. I spoke to my husband about it today and told him it's an issue because if we have our own family and have kids, we'd be struggling because of this. He reassured me and told me it won't come to this because he will be making more money from work, hell be getting raises. . I understood and understand how hard life can be and it's hard to even get a stable job these days so I don't really blame that she's asking my husband for money.

My mil also has a grown ass son and a husband, my husband told me that her husband pays for all her bills already and also his brother pays for all the groceries and also runs out of money. I just find it abit annoying if im honest even though I do understand or try to understand this... and my husband does pay all our bills so I'm not fussed. I don't really pay for anything other than bits and bobs here and there and electic which he also tops so I kind of do think I'm in the wrong. It's just that he said today he doesn't even spend a penny on himself and.he works literally long hours....so I felt bad. Also, we went for a coffee together today and I felt bitter with the fact that he could give his mum 40£ but couldn't me out for a meal today, he said we were running out of money and need to save and suggested that we go for a coffee together which ofc I was fine with until he sent his mum money. I do understand it's his money and he can do whatever he wants with it I know.... I make my own money and take driving lessons and pay for my own course im taking. I put money away for our first home together, he contributes if he can. The thing is we are saving for a house and tho he does put away money when he can but that money that he be giving to his mum couldve been used towards our savings even. I honestly dislike her for this a lot. His older brother is married and has children and does not send his mum money, never did even before. My partner earns decent amount. I'm posting because i kinda wanna get other people's opinions and also wanna know if im actually being a bitch. Today she asked him for money cos she has knee issues and wanted to go for acupuncture which helps her knee issue and she was in so much pain. My husband is kind and he even said he'd give me money too if I asked and even if we had kids he'd provide. I'm not exactly sure why I'm pressed but it could be cos of the fact we couldve saved more or that money couldve been spent on other things. My mil is a nice person but I seriously don't like her cos of this. It just feel like it's going to be an issue in the future...like why can't my mil understand that he is married now and he's going to have kids were trying to buy our first home...if i had kids i wouldn't ask them if they were married and saving for a place, I'd be understanding about this. Idk maybe we just grew up different.