📝 AITA for not apologizing to a bully from high-school?

By Negative_Singer_976 • Score: 101 • April 4, 2025 9:14 PM


Recently I (42F) went to my high-school reunion. High-school was not a fun time for me. I was awkward, shy, kept to myself. Was I was in grade 11 one of the guys asked me out. I was nervous and confused but agreed. Went to the movies and got a pizza. Typical date night. At school the following week people were pointing and whispering about me but I didn't know why. Finally one of the other girls told me it was cause this guy was telling everyone how "easy" I was and that I put out. Why do guys have to be such jerks? I ignored it as much as I could but finally snapped one day in the cafeteria when one of his buddies asked if I'd go out with him but we could skip the boring "dinner and movie" and get right to the good stuff. I looked at him and at the jerk next to him who spread the rumor and said "does sex count if his picks so small you don't feel anything? Hope your bigger than he is" and walked away. He spent the rest of his senior year being called "tiny dick" by his friends. Fast forward to reunion night. He's there with his wife, she's not from here so didn't go to school with us. One of his former friends saw us standing close to each other, separate groups of people talking but groups next to each other. We'll he comes over and starts talking about the rumor, being "tiny dick" and how I got him back for being an ass. He was quite embarrassed and his wife was asking what they were talking about. A little later his wife left and it was clear she quite upset about something. He comes over to me and tells me I need to apologize to him and tell his wife what he did wasn't a big deal and it was just a friendly prank. Apparently his teenage daughter is being bullied by a group of girls in her high-school and his wife is pissed she's married to someone who was so cruel when he was in school. I told him to go to hell, I wasn't going to fix anything for him as he made my life miserable with his little "prank" and he can fix it himself. The group I was with said I should have just talked to his wife and fixed things cause he didn't deserve this and it was just "boys being boys" in high-school but frankly I think he deserves it. AITA?

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