Short story, my friend and I both lost important people in our lives around the same time last month but we've been grieving differently.

I come from a large family so losing a loved one is not uncommon and when it happens, my family home is where all of the prepping for funerals happen. That being said, I don't ever have time to process my grief because I’m technically a ‘host’ and when I do have time to grieve, I prefer to do it alone. It might sound unhealthy but being alone allows me to show emotions I can't show during the day while basically being a funeral director. I enjoy being alone and unreachable, it's where I feel the most comfortable whilst grieving.

But with my friend, it's different. Understandably so, however, I'm not mentally in a spot where I can help her through her grief as I'm still trying to sort through my own. I feel bad and I try to be there when she needs me but it's getting increasingly hard to keep up with the messages and calls. I feel awful even saying it, but I don’t know what to do.