I (male, late 20s) was best friends with a woman I worked with for about 4 years. We were close, talked a lot, but she always said she only wanted things to stay platonic. A while back she moved from Canada to Vietnam to start a new life. That obviously hurt, but we still kept in touch regularly.

While she was there, she would tell me about her sexual experiences, and one day that ended up turning into us sexting. I didn’t think much of it just that we were having fun. Around then, I got really busy with work and also dealing with personal stuff.

She messaged me out of the blue one day saying she was scared and planning to leave the country. I texted her until she got on the plane, made sure she was okay. After that, she didn’t reply, so I didn’t keep messaging. I figured she was fine, or just needed space. She’s older than me and was more mature and independent.

A couple days later, she was super mad at me for not reaching out again. I apologized and told her I was just overwhelmed and didn’t realize how bad things were for her. But that was it. She completely cut me off after that.

I keep wondering if the fact that we sexted made her expect more from me emotionally. But I also felt left behind when she moved across the world and didn’t really know where I stood with her anymore. If I had known how serious her situation was, I would’ve done anything for her.

AITA?