Apologies, this is long also not sure if this is the right subreddit. I posted in another one but no comments.

Ok I don't know where to begin as there is ALOT of family orgin and history. Also please if you use my post on tiktok or anything, please change details such as age and gender for everyone because I don't want things to escalate.

I 20F am the youngest of 4 sisters. Fake names, Aria 29F, Spencer 25F, Emily 25F. My parents will be mom & dad, my aunt will be aunt. I also have 4 nieces, 2 from Aria and 2 from Spencer. Spencer's boyfriend will be Toby. Okay so a bit of background to kind of understand where my aunt was coming from. Years ago there was a family situation of false accusations. My maternal grandma and Spencer(13 at the time) conspired together to get my mom arrested. They pretty much accused my mom of DV towards Spencer. It was a week day, Aria and I were the only ones home which was odd as it was 9pm and parents nor Spencer or Emily were answering their phones. Police came to the house to take Aria and I to the station under the pretense that no one was going to be arrested. We pretty much were interrogated for hours and left alone together in a room with no bathroom break and we were both minors, Aria was 16 and I was 8. Our mom ended up being arrested, was in jail for a few days. It's all a blur honestly, I don't even remember getting home that night just remembering seeing my mom taken away in cuffs and my dad not knowing what to do. As you can tell my grandma (doesn't even deserve that title but makes this easier to understand) is the most heartless vindictive person ever. Anyways allegations were found false but a DCFS case was still open. One day after school it was my mom, me and Spencer home. Spencer was going off on our mom trying to get my mom to hit her or something, she kept pushing our mom against the mantle. I was just screaming for Spencer to stop, Emily came home seen what was happening and took me to the kitchen with the house and told me to lock myself in call 911 (our kitchen locked on the inside). When emily got back to the living Spencer had hit my mom enough to my mom being on the floor so then Emily started going at it with Spencer. My aunt ended up taking Spencer in while my mom basically paid her child support for Spencer. Spencer tried to do the same shit with my aunt but my aunt put up with it as there were no other family willing to take Spencer in so she lived with her for the remaining time until she was 18.

Oh also, the rest of the family (maternal) cut us all off cuz my grandma spread lies and bought my uncles new cars and eventually houses so they can cut us off lol so I was cut off from my cousins as well and my cousins were fed lies.

Obviously way more stuff happened but I don't want this long nor to be too obvious (kind of is already). So a few weeks ago my mom hosted a get together. My grandpa (maternal), aunt (forgot to mention earlier but maternal), my parents, Aria + 2 kids, Spencer + 2 kids & Toby, myself and my bf. Emily lives hours away btw. The week prior Aria had been feeding us all chisme about Spencer and how she is neglecting niece 1 ever since niece 2 was born (diff dads) and how niece 1 is pretty lacking necessities. Oh also last year Spencer cut us all off for half a year because Toby kicked her and niece 1 out at 3am and wanted to live with us and our parents rent free without working (at the time Aria and I were living with parents and Emily had just moved out a few months prior so there was an empty room). Dad told Spencer she's going to have to work to be able to save up to get back on her feet provide for niece 1 and pay a little rent (we all paid rent since everything else was provided). Spencer didn't like that so she put hands on dad and stormed out leaving niece 1 with us saying she can't do this. She got back with Toby a few days later and took niece 1 back. She only got back in touch cuz she was pregnant.

Back to what happened a few weeks ago, we were all kinda feeling sideways with Spencer with so much stuff but we put up with it to be able to see nieces. Well Spencer was yelling at niece 1 in one of the rooms and aunt goes in and is telling her to leave niece 1 alone they start going back and forth, Spencer is telling Aria and me to get auntaway before she does something to "this fucking lady" this gets aunt upset even more and tells Spencer that how is she just "a fucking lady" when she helped raise her. More back and forth and 3 nieces are in the room mind you cuz this is the toy room I guess you can say. I tell them all to get the hell out cuz kids hello. I stay back with the kids to distract them. I hear baby never crying I leave the room and see aunt swinging at Spencer, Aria blocking aunt from getting to Spencer, Spencer yelling back and baby niece left alone in living room as everyone yelling in kitchen. Aunt ends up leaving the gathering.

Aunt sends us all except Aria and Spencer a txt apologizing saying she shouldn't have done that but she's been holding back for years. Aria plays roles she always spreads rumors to all of us sisters to get us pinned against eachother (don't know why). Easter is this weekend and my mom and I feel so bad for aunt cuz she isn't going to come and we have never not had her at a get together. We think it's unfair but there is not much we can do. Any advice idk

I just don’t want to lose more family. Like everyone mentioned is the only family we have left. Also more context as to why my aunt has some resentment, last year when Spencer cut us all off, my aunts husband who helped raise Spencer, had a heart attack and was in the hospital and got open heart surgery. My aunt txted Spencer despite us being cut off, to let her know cuz he was a father figure to her. Spencer replied back saying “why should I care he made his bed” like what… and Spencer txted my aunt a few more hurtful paragraphs of txts during that time. So my aunt has been holding back.