AITA for not feeling bad that my daughter-in-law had a miscarriage after she voted for Trump?

I (56F) have always been outspoken about women’s rights. I marched for Roe, I’ve donated to Planned Parenthood for decades, and I’ve seen firsthand how dangerous it is when women’s healthcare gets politicized. So when my son (26M) married “Emma” (24F), a woman who loudly supported and voted for Donald Trump twice I was immediately turned off.

Emma isn’t just MAGA, she’s the type of bigot who posts memes mocking liberals and defends overturning Roe v. Wade, and claims women need to take more responsibility and keep their legs closed instead of relying on abortion. She voted for a man and a party that have actively worked to strip women of autonomy, safety, and medical access. I’ve never liked her and never tried to hide my feelings towards her. I’m only cordial to her for my son’s sake however I have expressed my anger to my son on how I don’t approve of his wife. He has threatened to go no contact with me over it so I try to remain somewhat respectful to her.

They have been trying for a baby for a few months now and finally got pregnant. However, she recently had a miscarriage. I didn’t feel anything. No sadness, no pity, no empathy. To me, it felt like poetic irony. You supported policies that have devastated other women, and now you’re shocked and hurt when your own reproductive experience turns tragic? I’m supposed to comfort you for a loss you helped make more dangerous for millions of other women?

I was polite, sure. But I didn’t fake sympathy. I offered support to my son, who is grieving, but I didn’t hug her, coddle her, or offer any emotional validation. And when my son asked why I was “cold,” I told him the truth: if Emma wants compassion during a reproductive crisis, maybe she shouldn’t have voted for the people who think women should suffer through them without options or care.

Now I’m being called heartless by parts of my family. My wife (59F) is on my side but my ex husband (my son’s dad) is calling me all sorts of names. But I don’t see it that way. Actions have consequences—and voting against your own body and other women’s rights isn’t just political, it’s personal