My girlfriend and I had planned a vacation for Easter. Nothing fancy, just go to Tennessee and have a good time. Easter is 4/20 this year, we'd be in Tennessee from 4/18-4/22. I had planned this whole thing out where I was going to propose to her, it was only supposed to be the two of us.

Skip forward to this morning and she says that she's invited both of her sisters and her brother, a few of her friends and ALL of their kids. Now instead of having a one bed hotel room, were getting a two bed room, her sisters and brother and nieces and nephews will be rooming with us (I'm paying 100% for the room) and I was told we need to buy an air mattress otherwise I have to sleep on the floor.

We got into an argument. She says it's her family, I told her it was meant to be a special getaway for our anniversary and she said we can do that any year, she wants a chance to spend time with her family. I feel like she has a point but I also feel like I have a point so I'm looking for ways to either wrap my head around this and try to have fun or convince her that this is important to me. I don't want to openly tell her I was going to propose but I'm not going to do it in front of her entire family either.

I DID tell her mom (her dad passed so I asked her mom's permission) and her mom told me to just put my foot down and tell her either they aren't going or I'm not going but that seems like a petty ultimatum which will likely just start a fight. Idk how to go about this.