Hey Reddit, Changing names because I know my husband's family loves Reddit. I (F 23) and my husband (M 28) met in college about 2 years ago, it was honestly love at first sight and have been inseparable since. When we met, we discussed our backgrounds and as it turns out he was an atheist and I a Christian. There has been no issue between us about our beliefs, we respect each other and don't cross boundaries like forcing each other to believe or reject certain ideas. My husband has 3 siblings, 2 F, 1 M (total 4). One of the Female siblings is transgender (she was born a female,is very much still a female as in she hasn't changed anything of her appearance,likes males, is engaged to one but goes by the pronouns of they/them). I don't really understand any of the LGBTQ stuff so I don't get involved in the topic but she has refused to meet me from day one (til this day we don't know each other or have had any direct interaction) because she says my religion hurts peoples feelings and doesn't support basic human rights. Before getting married, my husbands mom asked us to meet at a restaurant so she could express her concern about our marriage and talk about my beliefs. During dinner she went off on me saying how my religion is stupid and that I should stop believing in God bc that's all a lie, that organized religion is the worst and spreads hate. She asked what was my belief about being gay and homosexuality, I told her: I believe it's a sin, I don't support it, however I don't go around judging people or hating on them for the choices they make in life and that I have gay friends with whom I get along just fine and we respect one another. Needless to say, she kept yelling at me but I stood my ground and told her I was not going to change my beliefs and that my now husband understood and supported this. We get married about a month after that conversation, his family keeps pushing me to change my beliefs for almost a year to the point it was damaging my mental health, I spoke to my husbands dad and agreed to change some words around like sister to sibling so that she would feel comfortable around me but she simply never reached out to me so I stopped trying. About a month ago, hubby gets a call from one of his siblings (call is on speaker) and she says: so when are you going to apologize to our sister for marrying a Christian? Your actions have damaged your relationship with them, they no longer feel supported by you. Reddit when I tell you I was livid I was LIVID, I grabbed the phone from my husbands hand and yelled at her and simply told her: your sister is a grown adult and she can deal with her emotions as she pleases, my hubby doesn't owe an apology to nobody and hung up the phone. After hanging up, our phones were being bombarded by both his sibling and their mom telling me that I'm rude, that he should have mentioned she was on speaker, again going at it with the whole "you can be more sensitive" this is hurting our sibling and more stuff. Hubby and I eventually gave up fighting with them because we realized that no matter what we say they will always have something to say about me because they simply hate the fact I'm a Christian. Anyway fast forward to 2 weeks ago we met with his mom after she begged me for a meet up and yes you guessed it, she touched the subject again, saying how sorry she felt for me that I have so much hate in my heart, that if I were to have children bringing them to church didn't guarantee me they wouldn't turn out gay. I told her: hubby and I already spoke about all of this and it's simply none of her business how we will raise our children. She kept going on, getting angrier and angrier that at some point it felt like she was going to slap me. I left the restaurant, more like ran out of there crying bc she was making a scene (mind you, this restaurant is a block away from my husbands job and I used to work there too so people knew me). Anyway I ran 3 blocks away,called an uber and I could hear her coming after me, yelling at me out in the street. At this point I was so angry I was shacking, I turned around and told my husband: you better get that b+^% out of here before I slap her. And he did, he asked her to go away or he would cut her off forever. I get in the uber (hubby didn't follow as he had to work in 15 min) but he did tell me that she was waiting at the entrance of his job to give him a consolation hug thinking we had just separated with a face of contentment. This whole issue honestly almost ruined our marriage because my husband wasn't as aggressive as I was hoping he would be, one thing I forgot to mention is that I'm Latina and he's white so I am the loud aggressive one, he's calm. I almost divorced him for not being more firm with his mom and letting her scream at me like that. Anyway I later apologized to his mom via text because I am Christian and I should live what I preach, forgiveness, love and to turn the other cheek but sometimes that's hard to do when you got people bullying you constantly. Anyway hubby decided to block his mom and sister, and distance himself from his family except for his Dad and brother because they know how to mind their business and not get in btw our marriage. He says he chose me for life when we got married and that I have his support in everything, he comes with me to church (I don't force him, he knows he can stay home), he prays with me, he even joins me in worship and I love it. However I feel horrible because I know he misses his family, I don't like feeling guilty even when he's making this decision willingly. My husband says he wants them to learn the lesson and accept that they have no say in our marriage, that what they did to me was horrible and he doesn't want me to be bullied any further. Of course the story goes further into detail but I summarized it, I honestly don't get how they can act this way. I have asked people around me and they all say that if it doesn't bother my husband then why do I care so much about what they think, that he's my inner circle now, not anyone else, our families come second. So Reddit AITA for not changing my beliefs to please my husbands family?