I (20F) go to a PWI and spent over a year showing interest in Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. When I say I went to everything, I mean everything. If I couldn’t make it to an event, I still made an effort to stay in contact and keep up with what they were posting on Instagram. I spent a whole year staying consistent, showing my face, improving my resume, getting more involved on campus, and even doing more research about Zeta Phi Beta and what they stand for.

Since they didn’t have a line in Fall ‘24, I saw it as a chance to grow and really prepare myself for the next opportunity. But this spring? There were barely any events, no informational, and barely any communication. So I figured there wouldn’t be a line again.

Then out of nowhere, I found out they did have a line—because I saw their coming out video posted on Instagram. No rejection letter, no official communication, no "thank you for your interest." It was just a post.

What made it worse was seeing how some of the candidates were quite clearly close friends with the Zetas already. It’s already hard enough going to a PWI and trying to find your space, but to pour your heart and effort into something and then feel overlooked like that... it hurts.

Now their probate is coming up and people keep asking me if I’m going, and honestly? I don’t want to. I’m not trying to be bitter. I just feel really disappointed. I gave it my all, and still ended up on the outside. And now some people are saying I’m being salty for not showing support, but how can I celebrate something that reminded me how unseen I was?

AITA for not going to their probate or congratulating them?