My(35F) mom (59F) very clearly has some kind of mental health issue that started around 7 years ago. To keep a very long story short she is convinced that she is being gang stalked. To be clear, there is zero evidence of any of this because it's not freaking true. But she knows the truth. She knows what's really going on and according to her, her neighbors are in on it, my brothers (30M & 33M) are in on it, and I'm also in on it despite me living 2000 miles away. She moved from the suburbs out into the middle of nowhere to get away from the harassment, but obviously she can't escape from what's in her head.

My brother Jack (33M) used to live with her but she became convinced he was feeding "them" information and he finally had enough and moved in with our dad in a different state. Not long after Tim (30M) broke up with his partner and having no place else to go, moved in with mom. Now she's convinced that Tim is letting people in the house so that they can hide in the attic and the basement to spy on her and steal from her. She also thinks that when I came to visit at Christmas I convinced Tim to work with "them."

I understand that everything I've described is completely real to my mom and it must be terrifying for her to think that she not safe anywhere. My heart breaks for her and I hate that she's suffering. But her behavior has become increasingly erratic. About once a month I get a call from Tim telling me that she's going nuts. I tell Tim that he needs to call 911, that he needs to say she's having a mental health episode and making threats about harming him or others. But he doesn't want to because the previous times that he has called the police they didn't do anything. Our mom used to work at the police department in our hometown so she knows exactly how to act and what to say to get the officers to leave without doing anything. I have told Tim to call 988 and Adult Protective Services as well, but I don't think that he's done either. I've tried talking to her about how worried I am but she either tells me what I want to hear or blasts me about how she's not crazy and I don't have her back and I just want her money (she does not have any money).

About once a month my brothers and father call me to tell me how "we" need to get a lawyer and "we" need to get a judge to order a mental health evaluation and "we" need to force her into treatment. Neither of my brothers work and my parents have been divorced for twenty years, so what they really want is for me from across the country to find a lawyer, pay for a lawyer, and direct the lawyer to petition the court to have my mother evaluated and committed against her will. And since Jack isn't there (and, frankly, is too stupid to handle anything like this) and Tim can't drive I would need to take off work to fly out to oversee the court proceedings and to advocate for my mother if she did end up in the hospital, if she would even let me.

I have explained that if we manage to get her placed on a psychiatric hold or just fail to that she almost definitely with take that as validation of her belief that everyone is out to get her and she will likely cut off all contact with us and throw Tim out. I have also pointed out that she doesn't have insurance and that she will get slammed with hospital bills she can't afford. I also said that a hospital stay is no guarantee that she'll take her medication. She doesn't think that she's sick, so why would she take medication?

I don't know, I feel like I should be doing more but also that I'm too far away to do anything. I'm also resentful that my brothers keep trying to dump everything on me when they are way better positioned to address the issue.