I, 16M, have a girlfriend, 16F, who got trauma from her dad back then. I don't know what her father did with her, but she says he molested her.

One day, my girlfriend sends me a reel about a girl talking about some kind of bs about men being rapists or something (I don't remember fully). She stated under that video something like "there is a reason we call all men rapists." Woah- it slightly surprised me. We got into an argument how all men aren't the same. Then I said it's okay that she feels this way. I also said "I don't blame you." That time I wasn't able to effectively express my concern about her paranoia. And she took it like I said that her feelings are invalid.

Yesterday she told me that I was self centered because I didn't understand her. I haven't told her that I'm worried about her, living an unhappy life, looking at other men, trying to figure if they looked at her, with any sexual intentions. She said at the end of our argument that she will not stop being paranoid, if men stop raping. That hurt. I'm afraid she'll never stop with this mindset, and I can only pray she'll change. What do I do? Was I really self centered? And whats with her opinion? Am I supposed to just leave it like that and accept how she is? It would be difficult to always comfort her and take her mental pressure because of the thought of getting looked at.

I know this isn't the same, but in primary, I was really afraid of girls and I thought they always looked at me and laughed at anything I did. But I got out of it. Kinda-. I'm not that paranoid anymore and try to be more realistic. Is this the same situation with my girlfriend, or it's deeper than that?

I would be very pleased if someone could help me out asap, because the topic's pressure builds up a lot of emotions inside of me. I don't say I can't control myself, but it does irritate me very much. Thank you.