I (15F) have a sister (19F) who just came home from college and brought me, our cousin, and her friend small gifts to celebrate our moving-up ceremonies. I appreciated the thought, but I was on my period and feeling really off, so I probably didn’t show a lot of excitement. I think she might’ve felt a bit hurt by that, but I was still listening to her talk about her drunk moments and college life.

What’s been bothering me is how she treats me emotionally. When I talk, she doesn’t really listen. I was telling her about my friend who was traumatized because she almost got raped—a serious story—and she suddenly cut me off just to talk about how cute our cat was. I called her out a bit like “Kalain nimo uy” (which roughly means “That’s messed up”), but she brushed it off.

Even when I was talking about feeling scared while being home alone, she barely acknowledged it. She does this a lot—makes me feel like I don’t matter when I open up.

What really stuck with me was something that happened at an convention. We had to get our wrists stamped for entrance, and I was really hesitant because I have self-harm scars on my right wrist. She brought up that moment like it was a funny memory, but it wasn’t funny for me—it was actually really painful. More recently, she grabbed my wrist out of nowhere to ask where the barcode was (referring to my scars) during a convo, not even thinking about how that might affect me.

She never really acknowledges when she’s in the wrong. She makes light of things that hurt me and brushes off serious conversations. So now I feel conflicted about her gift—like, yeah, she gave it to me, but her actions don’t feel like they match the gesture.

AITA for not feeling thankful and for being upset even though she gave me something nice?