Ever since I was young I had always been close to my male cousins since we were all around the same age and despite being the only girl I had a tomboyish personality which made me fit in more. Eventually me and my cousins drifted apart but there was one in particular which I still kept a close bond with because unlike the other two, he would come every summer to play video games with me and we would always enjoy each other's company. In fact during the covid pandemic we would call each other online and chat about things we liked.

It was all going great until one summer in 2022, where he arrived for the first time since covid started. That summer was the worst summer I had ever experienced because of him.There were more than a few instances where I would feel violated and harassed. For example, once we both went to a party together and it was normal until he randomly decided to tell me that I looked like a $lut in the dress I was wearing. The thing is I wasn't even wearing a very revealing dress it reached a bit above the knee. Another time was when we decided to have a sleep over at my house. Since we were already out we decided to stay up a bit more after midnight. Big mistake on my part because randomly why trading pokemon on our switches he decided to explain what the devil's tango was in GREAT detail. That in my opinion was just too much and was the moment where I realised that something happened to this guy.

Then the next summer he decided to act as if everything was all okay between us even though I made it obvious that it clearly wasn't. Once he saw me he immediately asked for a hug which I didn't give him because I was uncomfortable. I find out on the first day that he handpicked a revealing black dress for me to wear. It was safe to say that I didn't speak to him for a while after that. Anyway then immediately after summer I find out that he's been secretly messaging one of my friends behind my back. I wasn't really comfortable with them dating especially after how he had been treating me these past few years. But I let it happen anyway because I didn't wanna invade in her love life and cause drama. But it doesn't end there no it doesn't because when I got a boyfriend a couple of months after him he suddenly has a problem with it and begins begging on his knees that I'm not with this guy that had done nothing to him.

Now because of him, my friend completely dissociated herself from me and my friend group because they broke up. So not only do I have a horrible cousin but he made me lose a friend who I had valued. Yet my parents still expect me to forgive and forget all of this. As much as I'd love to act like this never happened it's pretty hard to do so when so much drama was involved. So AITA for refusing to forgive my cousin for what he did to me these past couple of years?