Hello I'm Jade and I'm 21.

I'll name the ex-friend C and her bf O.

my friend C asked me if I would like to go out to eat with her and she said it'll only be me and her so I said yes I would love to go

When the day comes, I get their first then she comes and she's with her boyfriend. Which she told me it would just be us two, so it frustrates me cause now it's like I'll be a third-wheel and I don't have time for that.

I told her that if she wanted to eat with her boyfriend we could arrange plans another time and she said "no, it's okay we can hang out now" and then O jumps in and says "or you could just let the b- leave" and she laughed.

And I'm thinking to myself what's so funny? So i awkwardly laugh and ask her "why are we laughing?" And she says "he's just so funny" so i say "calling your friend the b-word is hilarious isn't it" and she said "don't be so serious"

...now ive had issues with her boyfriend before. He's said racist slurs before and has disrespected people. He's not a good guy in general and she's Hispanic he's white. She allows him to call her the b-slur??? Where does that make sense?

Back to the story, I grabbed my stuff and said I'd be on my way. And she begged for me to stay and I wasn't about to stick around to get disrespected. So she pulls out the "you're jealous aren't you?" As if we're in some movie or something and that's when I knew this was definitely a joke. So I ignored her and left.

She text me a couple days ago apologizing and saying she should have said something, but it hasn't been the first time he has said stuff and she laughs at it, regardless who's it to. It's weird. So I said "let's just keep our distance for now and let me think about it."

AITAH? Or is it understandable and reasonable?