I was living in a shared space for a study situation for a period of time. I’m female and in my 30s and so were the others. It was the first week of us all living together and one day I wake up to female housemate and male housemate in the couch together. There’s a blanket over them but it’s obvious the ended the night together on the couch and did what grow folks do.

A few days to a week later I wake up to someone opening my door. I’m freaking out because ofc I’m half asleep and in a vulnerable position. I yell and then I hear a male voice say “sorry” and then shuffle to close the door. My hearts of course pounding because as a woman it’s scary having your door open while vulnerable and hearing a random male voice only adds to the fear.

I have to leave for work so when I come back I ask the female housemate why her lover went into my room. She shrugs and says “we didn’t know you were home”. “WE”. She knew her creepy guy went into and more than that she was there when he did it. She made it seem like it was no big deal and blew me off that I was understandably upset about it.

There was never an apology and I had to continue living with this creepy guy ( who was always staring weirdly at me) for a few months until I ended up escaping. Things got worse housemate wise after that and I never felt comfortable living with them or being forced to share a bathroom with him. Our bathroom was gross and the tub was not draining which meant standing in a pool of dirty water, grime, and sand. Neither of the guys did anything about it and the kitchen was always dirty. I ended up using the en-suite in the girls room for the first clean shower in a week which the creepy male housemate saw and immediately told his girlfriend about. That escalated things ofc but at this point I’m unclean, uncomfortable, and sleep deprived due to other flatmates being loud in the kitchen every morning at 3am. We were also not allowed to have guests over and they had a friend sleeping on the couch, they came back once at 4am and woke me up the night before an important presentation.

I stopped speaking to them all after this and avoided them as much as possible. I was always on edge and angry around them after this and it created a lot of tension in the house. AITA for how I responded to this Situation?