Hi. I'm 29F. I have been with my partner for 3 years. I am engaged and getting ready to send out bridal shower invites. I do not feel comfortable inviting my SIL to the bridal shower because she is incredibly disrespectful. She makes comments to either my partner or I about how we should break up, about how her older sister has a crush on him, etc. There are years of other rude comments she would make. I would bring them up to her, but she would either ignore me, deny, defend or tell me that I am twisting my words but would never alloborate. Idk if this matters, but the SIL is 6 years older than me. My partner and I have made direct and indirect boundaries. Unfortunately, when there are other people around, the SIL plays the role of being a caring person quite well. But if it is just her and I, it is never a good interaction. Shortly after she made the comment about her older sister having a thing for my partner, I brought this issue up to my partner's mom ONLY because she kept trying to encourage a relationship between me and the SIL. Since then, I have been made out to be the villain and not trying enough to have a good relationship. A part of me is telling me just to invite her to avoid more drama, but the other part of me doesn't want to invite her because I want to have peace of mind at my event and I grew up being told that bridal shower invitees are only for the nearest and dearest to the bride. I feel like I am damned if I do and damned if I don't

*I do plan on inviting her to the wedding