Hey Reddit, So I (M21) have been dating my girlfriend, Alyssa (F22), for about 6 months. Things have been going really well—she’s fun, smart, chill to be around, and we have great chemistry. But recently we hit a bit of a wall.

She has this golden retriever named Max. Max is cute, friendly, and massive. Like, this dog is a 90-pound ball of fur, energy, and drool. I’ve met him a few times and he’s sweet, but a lot to handle.

The issue is: I have a strict “no pets” rule in my apartment. It’s a small one-bedroom, I rent from a very uptight landlord, and my lease clearly says no animals. Plus, I’m mildly allergic—not enough to need an EpiPen or anything, but enough that if I’m around a shedding dog for hours, I get itchy, sneezy, and miserable.

Alyssa recently asked if she and Max could stay at my place for a few days while her apartment undergoes emergency plumbing repairs. I offered to let her crash with me, but said Max would have to stay with her parents or a friend. She didn’t take it well.

She said I was being “cold and unwelcoming,” that Max is “part of her family,” and that she wouldn’t stay anywhere her dog isn’t welcome. I reminded her that it’s not about me disliking the dog—it’s literally my lease and my allergies.

She got upset and said, “If you can’t even be around Max, what kind of future do we even have?” I told her that’s a huge leap to make over a temporary situation, but she said it showed my “true priorities.”

Now she’s not talking to me, and one of her friends DM’d me on Instagram saying I need to “grow up” and that “real men love dogs.”

So… yeah. I’m wondering if I’m the AH here. I love Alyssa, and I’m not trying to be a jerk, but I also feel like my boundaries and health matter too.

AITA for not letting her dog stay at my apartment—even for just a few days?