So, I (19F) live with my roommate, Jess ( 20F). We’ve been roommates for about 6 months now. Jess is really laid-back, but sometimes she doesn’t think things through.

This weekend, we were going out to a party and she accidentally spilled coffee on her favorite dress. She was freaking out because the party was in a couple of hours, and she didn’t have time to do laundry.

She asked if she could borrow one of my dresses for the night, and I said no. I’ve never let anyone borrow my clothes, and I explained that I just don’t feel comfortable with it. Jess got upset and said that I’m being selfish and unsympathetic because I have plenty of clothes I don’t wear, and it’s not like I was going to wear them that night.

I felt bad for her, but I just didn’t want to risk my clothes getting ruined. I tried offering her other solutions — like ordering a new dress online or borrowing something from her mom. But she was really disappointed and now she’s giving me the cold shoulder.

I don’t think I’m the asshole, but a few of our mutual friends are saying I could’ve been more understanding. I just didn’t feel comfortable with it.

So, AITA for not letting my roommate borrow my clothes?