📝 AITA for not staying on call with my Long Distance BF?

By Visual-Factor-2006 • Score: 1 • April 25, 2025 3:00 PM


TLDR: I met him online, he has anxiety and wanted to talk but people were there and it was really late and I needed sleep, we argued, it happened more than once and then we broke up.

Me (21M) and him (21M) met on VRChat and we hit it off well, but since it was long distance, the time difference was 7 hours. This was fine for me since I would be on when he was on and everything was fine. After getting to know him, I found out that he has GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder) which, of course isn't great, so i said I'd be there for him. Due to the 7 hour difference, he'd be on at night and it would be around 4/5am when he'd want me to be on I.e., If he was feeling anxious or needed to talk about something bothering him, I would usually be on if I wasn't already sleeping or exhausted, but one night I was about to pass out and he had wanted me on, I went on to talk with him expecting a private area for a private talk, but when I load into the world, I see other people who weren't supposed to be here for the talk, this was a private world but he invited the people, so I didn't talk about the issue cause it's private, and I was really really tired I.e., could pass out any minute, I told him this in which he got really pissy saying "no stay longer, why don't you hang out more often then" to which i answered that I need to study for uni, I was on Christmas break and had exams the next week, he had said "But you're not in Uni right now" and then I told him about my exams, to which he just said "just go", this happened quite a bit to which I then broke up with him

Edit: If you'd like to know the full story, DM to ask, and then I'll get back to you when I can

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