I (25 F) had a best friend since we were kids—primary school all the way through high school and into adulthood. We were incredibly close, and she meant a lot to me. But a few years ago, things fell apart, and I can’t stop wondering if it was my fault.

I started dating someone she didn’t like. She’d made comments before that she didn’t really approve of him—nothing super dramatic, but she clearly didn’t vibe with the idea of him. She had never met him in person, but still had resentment toward him, clearly my fault as I’d complain about arguments here and there over time for advice but never anything major, I’d say double as much good than bad. Over time, I felt like I couldn’t talk about my relationship without judgment, so I stopped bringing him up while on the phone to her her.

When we got engaged, I didn’t tell her. I was scared she’d be upset or disapproving, and I didn’t want the conflict. I thought maybe I’d wait for the right moment. But then time passed, and she found out through someone else, and she just… stopped talking to me.

It’s been years now. I’ve tried reaching out multiple times—messages, checking in, even apologies. No response. Radio silence. I still miss her, and I still feel sad about it, but part of me also wonders: was I really that wrong? I was trying to protect my peace. But I also kept a huge life event from someone who was supposed to be my best friend.

So,… AITA?