My father would like to be cremated and buried about my mother’s grave. Backstory, my mother passed away when I was young due to surgery complications. 2 years after she passed away my “father” moved out and left me to live with my grandmother. We have had a weird relationship since. When my grandmother and I picked out the headstone (the only part I was allowed to decide because I was left at my friends house while they planned a funeral) her tombstone doesn’t say “wife” on it because I didn’t feel like he deserved to be on it. They never slept in the same bed together almost my entire life. They didn’t love each other she stayed with him because she had to. My entire family has told me stories and just from what I can remember I was a teen. My dad was never around for any of my events never showed up unless it was to make him look good. Days after my mom died I had an event that only my moms best friends son went with me too. Following this he had a “medical” episode at an event less than a month after she passed caused by drugs. Am I the asshole for saying no when he told me he was making me beneficiary of his life insurance and that he wanted cremated and buried on top of her?