I (31f) have been dating this man (37) for about 7 months now. We met and did a lot of texting and talking about 4 months before dating seriously. He’s recently divorced, still dealing with the ex wife in terms of the home they still own and trying to sell it on top of their child. Our relationship has been good. I really have no bad things to say about it. He takes care of me in every way, always a gentleman and I feel like he loves me but when he got a new job offer things kind of became super real. I have a child as well and with this move it means I will have to pick up with my son and go with him. That alone has me terrified. I’ve done that before with my child’s father and I’m legitimately traumatized by it. Now I know we haven’t been together long but I brought up the question on what his feelings would be if I was to require a stronger commitment (marriage) before making this huge move. I asked him to think on it and get back to me before answering. I made it clear that I wasn’t exactly sure I was asking for, I wasn’t giving him an ultimatum and I wasn’t sure if I truly wanted that but I wanted to know his stance on it before actually making my decision on moving with him. When he brought it up again not even a day later he gave me all these reasons as to why it was a good idea and why he would be on board with it. So in my mind we were all on board and made an agreement to get married and move forward. The move was scheduled about 4/5 weeks from said conversation. It completely moved each of ours timeline in how we wanted to date which was maybe in 2/3 yrs marriage would be on the table for sure. Anyway, we start making plans to move, looking for rentals, moving companies, etc. along the way he’s asking questions like what kind of ring I want, if I want to go to the courthouse, what day I want to do it. We go ring shopping and buy a beautiful ring and get our prenup in order and I just started feeling uneasy. He kept looking at me weird, looking at the ring weird. I had to speak up and say something. I told him something about the ring is making me feel uncomfortable, I asked him if he felt forced and then he says yes, I wouldn’t have given you the ring if it was my choice. But it was his choice. I didn’t give an ultimatum, I asked a question and I wanted to make my decision based on all the facts and how he truly felt and after I said those exact words to him he treated me like my feelings shouldn’t have been hurt, told me I was tying to be a victim and that I was tryna have a TikTok female mentality (I guess taking peoples videos and thoughts and wanting what they have) that’s never been me and he knows that. I felt so invisible, almost like I was crazy of something for feeling lied to and manipulated. He keeps bringing up this timeline reasoning and I just find it ask an excuse. I feel strung along. He mentioned that if he didn’t say he was in agreement I wouldn’t have gone with him on this move and I think I still would’ve gone but now I don’t think I want to go at all. I feel manipulated. All I ever asked was to never lie to me and I feel like that’s all he’s done in these past few weeks. I don’t know if I can be the same spouse to him that I have been now.

AITAH if I just stay and forget it all? Do I go and keep building on what we do have? Am I asking for too much?