I [19F] was in band in high school and middle school. I also took private lessons on my own in elementary school. I was a clarinet and also played the tenor sax and alto sax. One of my dead relatives was a professional musician, and my great aunt gave me his tenor as a gift several years ago.

I ended up leaving this gift at home after I went off to college. I wanted to play at college, but I have three roommates and didn't want to disturb them. I also didn't really know of any appropriate places where I could practice.

Today, I heard from my mom that my great aunt asked for my tenor back at easter dinner. She was planning to give it to one of her grandkids because the grandkid wants to learn how to play. I got super pissed and told my mom I'm not giving it back. I wanted to play it next year when I have my own apartment in my college town. I'm going to live alone without any roommates.

My mom said we have to give it back because my great aunt is really old and might have dementia. My mom also said that if I keep it, my dad would have a huge fight with my mom. My dad didn't want me to find out about them giving it back.

I've been having issues with my dad's side of the family for a long time. I pretty much want nothing to do with them because of how they treat my mom, but tolerate them for my dad. The whole saxophone is making me really upset, but my parents are acting like it's not even my decision to give it back.

I don't even know what grandchild MY instrument is going to. I guarantee it will get broken immediately. It's an old instrument and I'm already concerned about it now.

I know I sound shallow right now, but I was always taught that asking for a gift back is very rude. I think it's especially ridiculous to ask for it back after SEVERAL YEARS.