Hi everyone. I’m 19 and the girl I’m talking about is 20. We were in high school together, same class during junior year. I instantly wanted to be friends with her — she had amazing style, was beautiful, interesting, and we shared a lot of common interests. We got close really fast and became best friends. We shared everything, spent so much time together, and even wore matching outfits sometimes. I trusted her completely.

Eventually, I started dating a guy from our friend group. Even in a relationship, I tried to keep spending time with her. I made efforts, like sleeping over at her place or going out with her instead of my boyfriend. But slowly, I felt her drifting away. She started hanging out with other groups and not really including me anymore. I didn’t understand why — I was still making her a priority.

Then I found out she and the rest of our friend group were having parties without inviting me or my boyfriend. We hadn’t done anything wrong, and it really hurt. I also discovered she was hosting parties at her place and never told me. When I confronted her, we fought. That’s when I realized I cared way more about her than she did about me. After that, our group fell apart, and we stopped talking.

She started hanging out with people I didn’t get along with — even my ex-best friend and my boyfriend’s ex (who was still in love with him). That felt like the biggest betrayal. But I stayed with my boyfriend and managed to move on.

Near the end of the school year, I reached out first. I even apologized, though I didn’t have much to be sorry for — maybe just for venting about her when we weren’t speaking. Later, I found out she had been making fun of me behind my back, calling me names with people who disliked me. That broke what little trust I had left.

Now I’m in my second year of university. I have a great relationship, new friends, and I’ve moved forward. But she hasn’t. And I don’t know if I should keep being there for someone who once hurt me so deeply.

We occasionally talk on Instagram. Lately, she’s been opening up to me about her life — her current boyfriend is toxic, might be cheating, she feels like she’s developing an ED, and says everything is going wrong. I try to help her because I still care on some level. But honestly, part of me still feels hurt and bitter. She dropped me when I needed her, mocked me, and now I’m the one she turns to when things go wrong.

I know it sounds harsh, and maybe a part of me is still bitter, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m giving energy to someone who wouldn’t do the same for me.

What would you do in my place? So AITA for feeling this way?