So I have this really good friend that I met a few years back, we always lived in different cities and visited each other often, we confided in each other a lot and even though it was a recent friendship, she became very important to me. At some point, she decided to move into my city because all her friends had moved out hers. We had talked about how cool it would be to live in the same city some time ago and I said I loved mine and it was so fun, but I wasn't seriously suggesting it and from there until the moment she decided she wanted to come, I was not really that into it and also, not in the same place in life. I told her to think about it because I could not really offer a social life to her, I am busy and my people are scattered in different environments and I struggle to find time for everyone, but she decided to come anyway. I was a bit overwhelmed but also excited, I started including her into my plans because I knew she was lonely, but she has been too... eager? she barely knows my friends, but after just seeing them a few times she talks about them as if they were her friends already, she texts them, asks for favors, she joined the same activity we all go to together even though I strongly implied I was not okay with it, she is pushy about seeing each other and sometimes I feel she is more interested in seeing my friends than me. Also important to note that my friends do not really match her energy at all, not that they are rude or that they dislike her but they just see her as my friend, we are a quite closed group and all of us are introverted. They are just so different. The fact that she is THAT interested in them rubs me the wrong way and I am starting to see her differently. Like I thought we were just so similar and had a special bond, but she seems to be want to bond with anyone, no matter who they are? maybe she is someone who gets close to people to obtain something? I know this sounds like me being judgemental, maybe I am, but I have seen her do that to other people, just never thought she would do it to me (still hard to convince myself that I am not crazy to think this). The thing is, by now she seems to have the expectation to be invited into all my group gatherings and I am no longer feeling comfortable doing that. At this point I feel like she wants to have the same life that I have worked towards for years, without me really offering or making this decision. I can't even mention a plan in front of her without her getting so excited and assuming she will join it, more now that she knows all my people. It is probably my fault because I was initially counting her in for everything, but now it feels draining and like I do not have my own space anymore. I feel incredibly guilty because I am all she has in this city. I was happy and bubbly and now I feel anxious about this. Am I a jealous, weird, selfish, judgemental POS? I am really to accept this, I also accept any advice to avoid building more resentment towards her, despite everything I love her and want the best for her.