I’m the same op from this post — https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/y7t1FfOsHO

me (19f) and my ex-stepmom (30f) been living together for almost a year, and we pretty much went through a lot together.

Long story short, my dad was an abusive person who pretty much neglected us and was explosive to say the least.

After the incident, my stepmom ran out of the room and proceeded to go to the shelter. But before she could do, she wanted me to bring her kids from my dad…

I was able to, although not without consequences. My dad was furious and kept yelling at me, stating I ruined his marriage and tried to call the police on me for “kidnapping” the kids. So safe to say, I was kicked out.

I was able to temporarily move in with my bio-mom, until my stepmom was able to get an apartment. While I stayed with my biomom, I still helped my stepmom with childcare (i.e traveling 4 hours round trip, buying her a stroller when hers broke.) and provided her money whenever I could. I did all this while trying to finish up my senior year of high school. I feel like it’s important to mention that I also helped her find the apartment we were in. My stepmom was able to get a voucher due to her income , but a lot of landlords don’t accept it due to complications with using a voucher.

So I told my mom about my the situation and she knew a broker who accepted vouchers. Another long story short, I was the person who got all the paperwork needed and acted as a representative for my stepmom as she couldn’t travel much. After 6 months, we finally got the apartment.

While at first I was excited that we finally found the apartment and I wouldn’t have to travel as much to her, she still needed my help with watching the kids. I tried to push back stating I was going to start attending classes soon (I went to my local cc), but she said since I have off days I pick up and watch the kids. Which I had no choice but to do. So while I attended school 3 times a week, I watched the kids 6 times a week including the weekends.

I obviously told my stepmom that I can’t really watch the kids anymore as I have no life due to watching them constantly. She then told me that I had a lot of free time and I didn’t have anything better to do… (which is true, but why do you think so??)

She then told me if I got a job, she will find someone else to watch the kids as they’re her responsibility. I’m like okay… so at the end of the school year I was finally able to find a job.

But guess what ! I still had to watch the kids on the days I wasn’t working. I was upset as I told my stepmom that I still don’t have time for myself, but she said she needed my help and she doesn’t want to use my dad as a fallback.

So I sucked it up and said whatever. Now it’s starting to come to a boiling point. Last week I confronted my stepmom regarding being her default babysitter and how she’s able to hang out with her friends meanwhile I can’t do any of that as I’m always prioritizing her kids. She then said it wasn’t that bad and she’s not working Sundays anymore and she already doesn’t work Friday (mind you, I work a 12 hour shift on Fridays.)

Now, here’s the thing I don’t contribute to any of the bills aside from our phone bill since I started working this year. My stepmom told me that she wanted me to start contributing to the bills and rent in which I obviously didn’t want to, because I was already watching her kids. She said with her income she can’t do everything by herself, and she needs more help. And it’s kinda my obligation to watch the kids. I told her I’ll only help pay the rent if I’m not watching the kids anymore.

And on top of that we’re having a roommate situation type spat, so I’m not a neat person though when you ask me to clean, I will clean. I just have a lot on my mind and after work I’m just constantly exhausted and want to rest. Sure I’m lazy, but not intentional. I’m just tired. This morning my stepmom was upset to see the living room was a mess even though I worked a shift yesterday and was exhausted. Today was my off day and I just wanted to go to the gym and visit my bio mom. I told her I was exhausted, and she just can’t assume when I’m not watching her kids I have nothing to do in my life. And personally I’m not a person who believes in cleaning up messes that are not mine. (I know it may be immature, but I don’t think it’s fair to me to constantly clean up after her kids, especially when I wasn’t home for two days.)

Anyways she told me to just throw out the trash and we’ll have a talk.

I’m sorry if the post if all over the place, I just have a hard time trying to comprehend everything I went through this past year. And once I thought I could relax I just can’t.

Sometimes I feel like I complain too much but not at the same time? But AITA for not wanting to contribute to the bills and not wanting to watch the kids anymore?

If info is needed just ask away, I don’t mind.

Thank you for reading.