Long story short, we are very very broke. Im talking about being behind on rent like every month type of broke. I have an iPhone 8, and i think its time for an upgrade, for my 17th(and various past b-days) bday my dad didn’t get me ANYTHING. So 6 months later(like last week) i charged him. I told him since he didn’t get me anything could he get me a new iPhone, he said sure once he has the money. Fast forward like 3 days later he gives me a budget of like 400 dollars for the new phone. I cant get what i want with 400 dollars. Fast forward 3 days later again, it turns out he wont be able to get me anything at all, since he didn’t even have the money in the first place, he was just counting on the money he didn’t even receive.

I KNOW i sound spoiled. However, there is a reason for this, and i think its valid.

I would be willing to get a cheap android, IF my dad actually was trying his best to help our economical situation. However, he is not.

My dad is one of those people who prioritizes others first, then us, his family, come last. I could go on about the countless times he chose others over us, but i think you guys get the idea.

On top of this, he refuses to get whatever job he can get. He says he doesn’t want to work doing anything else besides this one specific job. He has no actual reason for this btw.

ON top of this, he said like 2 days ago that he wants to buy his mom a phone…when mine is barely working, mine is running on hope. Again though, he is choosing others over us(my MOM DOESN’T even have a phone guys, she needs one so bad).

Btw he would buy material things for others when even he was broke, so right now is no different, except that it’s his son this time that is asking him for something, and he’s not willing to buy me it, when he would literally go into debt for others.

So AITA?

Tl;dr my father always gets other people material things and basic essential things when we need them, so i am not willing to compromise and get an older model of iPhone because i KNOW that he can get it for me, but just wont.

Edit: guys, do some of you genuinely think using your daughters college money so that someone else could have a truck when they already had a car is okay? Or is it okay for it to be used on drugs? Is that okay?? I dont mean to sound spoiled, as i said id get an android, or wtv he could give me, but most of you seem to not understand my perspective at all.

A good father does all he can for his family. Id love my dad if he was working, and even if he couldn’t afford anything for me, id know he’s trying, and that’s enough. But my dad isn’t. Thats why i hold to this position.