me (18f) and my dad (42m) have a good relationship and i do enjoy his company but he infantilizes me constantly to the point other people have even commented on it and it makes me really uncomfortable.

he tries to tickle me or just generally mess with me by poking and prodding which i understand may be his love language as he’s a very physical person but i’ve said since i was little i didn’t find this enjoyable and as a child i would have full blown panic attacks and bite, hit, punch etc my way out of it because i also had a weak bladder and didn’t want to be embarrassed if i had an accident.

he also speaks to me in a baby voice and uses names he made for me when i was a small child to refer to me which i don’t mind occasionally since i understand he’s my parent and he will always see me as his child but he does this in public intentionally often to embarrass me or be funny.

and when i do try to spend time with him hes constantly on his phone or when i speak to him he just doesn’t answer even if hes not doing anything, and when i get annoyed and say never mind and walk away he just repeats what i said and then answers back.

its gotten to the point where multiple people have joked or commented on it because its so obvious he’s ignoring me but i have no idea why.

he also guilt trips me about spending more time with him or going to the movies, out to dinner, etc but we aren’t at a good place financially and i know that it would be a luxury to go do these things that neither of us would actually enjoy doing together.

he’s even has a girlfriend now who wants to go and do things with him but he doesn’t make plans when i’m with him and says it’s to spend time with me.

i just don’t know what to do because i love my dad but i can’t be the child he misses.

tldr: i feel like a spoiled brat because my dad wants to spend time with me but he doesn’t treat me equal to other friends and family which makes me not want to do things with him.