okay very long, im gonna end up trauma dumping so be ready for the word vomit but im gonna give some context, im 18 , i live with my mother, my brother and my father, we all do not consecutively speak, my mom speaks to me my brother and my father when she needs stuff, my father only speaks to me and my mother on occasion, and my brother doesn’t speak to me or my father, my mother is scared of my brother because he blew up on her in a argument a while back and kicked him out and let him back 6 months later…. and now she doesnt ask him to do certain things so “she doesnt get on his bad side” very toxic household.

im gonna drop some even more examples and stories before i get into the post to know what type of person me and her both are , im not close with my mother ,why im not close with her? i feel like im not cared for as a genuine human being with thoughts and feelings and im treated as if im still a child, in the sense i have to rely on “mommy” and listen to “mommy” only, on the other hand she is very close with her other son, my brother was never the brightest but he spent a few years in the medical field went to nursing school and is now a nurse, and my mother is trying to push the school narrative on me hard (as well as my girlfriend) and im not comfortable with it and ive made that clear to her, my girlfriend and i found out we were bringing a life into this world (we ended up miscarrying a few weeks after finding out), and into a week of this news she starts asking me about school and i told her i cant bc one i still have my car insurance to pay (i pay and own my own vehicle in my name since my mom couldnt help with it due to ssi and she could lose benefits) as well as other bills such as my phone and adding school to the list of bills would be one because im not eligible for financial aid since im not under the lease anymore (we are section 8) and two, i have a kid on the way and school would be impossible to juggle and i said i would have to wait till my child gets older in order for me to do it, she told me to go part time or quit my job and let my gf parents or my mother take care of the kid and have my father pay my car insurance, not possible.

another story, is when i expressed my feelings about how i was feeling like i was depressed and i feel like i have nobody and she asked me if i need a therapist and got me a psychiatrist and got me on adhd drugs (this was my first time opening up to her)

another one is where she was trying to make me pay 30$ a week towards her cable bill, which is 120 a month to something i dont use, to be fair im living under her roof but i would be practically paying the whole bill plus im on a target team member salary so im not making much😭 but i ask what my brother and my dad are paying because its not fair that i have to be the only one and my mother tells me that its none of my business to know and they they pay their part, so i said that i wasnt paying 30$ a week towards something i dont use plus when you have somebody also there at the edge of your bed ( my brother ) that hasnt had to pay anything since he came back, so she threatened to kick me because i refused to pay 30$ a week.

alright so lets cut to the chase now, my mom had surgery for her foot about a month ago right before i find out my girlfriend was pregnant, she asked me to walk her dogs for her and that was all for the 6 weeks she would be on bed rest, i was okay with this , since then ive been in the worst state financially, mentally and physically, and my mother knew all of this because i would talk to her about it, and when i did she would ask me to go walk her dogs( let me make this very clear, theres animals that she brings off the street and takes care of them and keeps them and lets nobody know, and me and my father do not like animals and the last thing we want to do is take care of animals that we never wanted) , sorry about the tangent, but it was fine the first few days and my brother was taking the dogs and walking them too and then after the first week everything just changed, ( my mom is overly obsessed with ordering shit online, perfumes, bags, stuff off amazon) and every day im not exaggerating there was a package at the post office that i needed to pick up for her, and then i would have to wake up and walk the dogs , get her package , guilt trip me and make me feel bad that im not able to get her food , all while having to head to work right after , plus i have a pregnant girlfriend that i need to be there with at the end of the day thats ready to blow my head off at any moment for no reason so it wasnt a good mix, so more and more of it goes on and now im feeding her cats that her and my brother bought in and now my brother has fully stopped walking the dogs because “he works 24/7” im working day in and day out and asoon as i get off im doing instacart so wheres my break?

now because of this im left with waking up with interrupted sleep to walk the dogs and tender to her animals and make what time i have to eat and get her stuff and then when i finally get off of work i have no free time i have to go straight home to tend to the animals, all while my brother gets to sleep , so keep in mind i work closing shift and i get off at 11 so i get up and then walk them at 11 so now thats 12 hours and yet nobody wants to walk them while im not home so if im out any longer then she’ll text me while im out with my girlfriend or doing instacart saying “its been xx hours this is abuse come and take the dogs” and at this point of our text conversations , its all her just asking me for stuff, such as her packages, telling me how hungry she is, and aswell as walking her dogs, so now im getting the shit end of the stick.

we found out about the miscarriage and i let my mom know while we were at the clinic and i was texting her telling her how upset we were and how i didnt get to hear the heartbeat, she apologizes to me tells me its gonna be okay, then i respond back , then she goes “dont forget to walk the dogs and get my packages tomorrow “ ( im not joking i will drop the messages her )

so today i was out till 4 last night doing instacart after work and i came in and my mother knows when i get home plus she is up at 4 am everyday, so i took the dogs and after that i went to bed, and i woke up at 1230 and she wanted me to get her package before work and i couldn’t because i have to get ready for work and then leave because i work at 2 and i start doing so, and she’ll usually call me or yell my name from her room to wake me up to take the dogs or text me but this wasnt the case this time so i thought my brother took them, i leave the house and i get a call from her asking if i took the dogs and i answered no and she had a melt down saying how they havent been walked for 12 hours and that whos gonna walk them since im not here and she hangs up on me, then texts me a paragraph saying how i shit on her and that shes told everyone and everyones pissed and believes this is abuse, meanwhile im just not trying to lose my job because ive taken alot of days off as well as been late for doctors appointments with my gf and getting my mothers errands for her and im not gonna risk losing my dogs for animals that arent werent my responsibility in the first place, and this was the first time i wasnt able to walk them due to my circumstances and this is what i was told. but yes, that is the story, i dont know if im wrong , im scared to speak up because i dont want to be kicked out, i spoke to my dad and multiple different people and they told me im not wrong for feeling the way i feel, so reddit keyboard warriors, tell me AITA?