AITA, For outing my ex for being emotionally abusive in our relationship? While in our relationship we established a rule to work through our problems together and not involve friends and family, that said, Jack and I broke up about six months ago, we were together for 4 years and lived together for 1 year, after separating and agreeing to stay friends because of family and mutual friends. I struggled really hard after our split, and I confided my feelings and issues to friends, even though we had an agreement. I was hurt and felt a little crazy, I was honest about everything I went through.
Back story, In the beginning of our relationship, Jack loved everything about me, my opinions, the way I looked, my drive to accomplish and succeed, planning get togethers and celebrations for friends and family…. Fast forward, we move in together and everything changes, I couldn’t do anything right, I couldn’t clean right, I couldn’t cook right, I didn’t look right, I was pushy by planning things, and didn’t respect boundaries (not previously discussed boundaries). I consider myself an empathetic and thoughtful person, I don’t like to make other people uncomfortable or unhappy so each complaint felt like daggers! I felt the heavy pressure to make Jack and his kids happy, without succeeding, I just became a failure.
Jack and his kids preferred to eat fast food and I like to cook, his drive to accomplish and succeed with me stopped, and trying to fit into the dynamic of his home, I went with the flow of his home. We both gained weight, I gained about 10-15 lbs, Jack gained 40-50lbs, after months and months of no intimacy, Jack told me he needed to get his testosterone tested, but later admitted that was a lie, he wasn’t attracted to me. We tried dieting and going to the gym together, but busy schedules and young kids took over, failing again. It ended us, he couldn’t get past my weight gain, despite having his own. Hindsight, it was an incredibly painful experience for me, and while I don’t think there’s a time frame for healing I can’t stop being hurt.

Our friends and family were confused as to why we ended things (because of our confidential clause) and I was (still am) mentally struggling with myself esteem and depression, I leaned on my friends and family for comfort and understanding, and I was honest. As things start surfacing, Jack started losing friends over this and I feel like I have back stabbed Jack for not keeping my word to keep our problems between us. I am obligated to interact with Jack for birthday parties, graduations, weddings ex. I have met his new GF, I know this will be the course of my life for the foreseeable future. I don’t have issues with the new GF I know she is in titled to have a completely different life experience with Jack, and I hope for both their sakes they do, but I can’t help feeling like a shitty person for changing peoples view. AITA?