I am a 25f and my mom is 48f. I am currently a grad student and working on my schedule for next semester. There's a class in the summer that I need to take in order to graduate. Long story short my mom had like a 9 day trip to Europe planned the exact time my class would be in the summer. I had told her repeatedly not to do anything for the summer because I have lab work and then I just registered for that class (my mom works remote so there's only certain weeks of the year that she can travel internationally). Well she booked it anyways and now she has to cancel it. She accepted that really easily but then she was like oh we can still go but we'll just go for the weekend instead before my class starts.

Last summer pretty much the exact same thing happened, and when In told her I didn't want to go on a trip she sulked around for a month and was really passive aggressive. I gave in and said I would go just so she would go back to normal.

This time I stood my ground but she is pissed. She see's it as me not wanting to spend time with her. She's crying and freaking out because she said no one wants to do anything with her. I live at home and we do tons together. I told her I don't understand why our spending time together has to hinge on travel because we do plenty together. She sees home as like the ultimate cage and the only time she actually enjoys in her life is when she travels internationally.

She also said that maybe she didn't raise me right because I don't want to see the world and explore. But the thing is we have! We've definitely traveled more that most people have in their lifetime. Is it so bad that I want to stay home, work in my lab, take a class, and maybe go visit some family this summer instead?

I know this comes of as privileged (who wouldn't want to go on a trip) but for me it's more because I feel like my mom has the expectation that I'll just go along with whatever she wants. And she guilt trips me soooo bad about that I feel like I have no choice (when you get a job we'll never be able to do a trip ever again, who knows how long we'll live etc.). Of course we have a good time, but I feel like her making these plans has really thrown off my ability to have a summer where I can really be productive and try to get a job/ internship and I want to feel like I have some control over my life.

so AITAH?