Back in December 2024, my now-husband(24M) and I(26F) had a very small, last-minute wedding with about 10 people. It was mostly for legal reasons—I needed health insurance to afford my new medication, and we were planning on getting married eventually anyway. We didn’t make a huge deal out of it because we knew we still wanted to have a bigger celebration with friends and family in the future.

I told my family this at the time, including my mom and sister. They didn’t come to the small wedding. My sister didn’t want to drive an hour, and my mom didn’t want to call out of her diner job. I understood and didn’t push it—I figured they’d come to the big one.

Fast forward to now: my husband and I are planning a big celebration for July 2026. We want to have a day where we can celebrate our love with the people we care about, especially since we’ll probably be focused on buying a house and having kids soon after.

Now here’s where it gets messy. My dad was recently diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and I’ve taken him into my one-bedroom apartment to care for him. My husband and I sleep on couches so he can have the bedroom. I’ve supported my dad for years—paid for lawyers when he went to jail, helped him get clean, covered groceries and rent, rehab, everything. I love him, but it’s been incredibly draining.

On top of that, my sister is in a toxic relationship with a man who’s abusive to her, animals, others, and his own kids. He doesn’t want to get married or have kids, which she does. They fight constantly. I’ve begged her to leave, offered her my home, but she always goes back.

When I told my mom and sister about the 2026 wedding celebration, they both said I shouldn’t do it. My mom thinks I shouldn’t celebrate while my dad is sick. My sister says it’s a painful reminder that her boyfriend won’t marry her, and that I’m being insensitive.

I told them I can’t stop living my life because of other people’s situations. I’ve spent years putting my life on hold, especially for my dad. I want something joyful, something for me. And it hurts that when I try to talk to them about dresses or ideas, they act cold and uninterested—especially after not showing up the first time.

So… AITA for still planning a wedding celebration even though I’m already married and despite everything going on?

TL;DR: I had a small wedding in 2024 for health insurance reasons, but always planned a bigger celebration later. My dad is now sick with cancer (I’m his full-time caregiver) and my sister is in a toxic relationship with a man who won’t marry her. They say I’m selfish for planning a wedding celebration in 2026, but I feel like I deserve something joyful after constantly putting others first. AITA?