I (28F) live in NYC and yesterday I was talking to a friend about how I’m someone who constantly seeks change. I move apartments and states often, switch up my routines, dive into new interests, set new goals, outgrow things—regularly. I also travel a lot, and I love reinventing my lifestyle every so often. I told her I get bored when things stay the same for too long, and for me, change feels like growth.

She hit me with: “You need therapy.” Not in a gentle or curious way—more like a snap judgment.

I pushed back and explained that it’s not about being lost or unstable. I’ve had the same remote job for over 6 years, make a six-figure income, and I’m close with my family. Ive been consistently close to two best friends I’ve known for over 20 years who live in germany (we talk all the time and visit several times a year), and best bestie who put me in her building (6+ years). I’m also getting my bachelor’s next month while working full-time. On top of that, I’m going through a divorce that I initiated because I knew I deserved more.

I told her I’ve already met my lower-level needs—stability, safety, connection—and now I’m focused on the top of Maslow’s hierarchy: self-actualization. Growth, fulfillment, evolution. That’s what drives me.

She responded that I’m “stuck in a loop,” “missing the point of life,” and basically implied that I’ll never be satisfied.

AITA for pushing back when my friend told me I need therapy for always wanting change—even though I feel like I’ve built a stable, fulfilling life?

edit: i am in therapy