hi reddit I'm back again and I'm in need of advice again please help me cause I really don't know what to do or how to go about things at the moment

so I (19 f) have been with my boyfriend (23 m) for almost 2 years now, we met because I am best friends with his twins brothers (20 m) since middle school so I was always around hanging out with them and our friends group and I'm very close with their mom she the sweetest thing ever but anyways me and my boyfriend ended up getting close because I helped him out of a very dark time he was very very dependent on drugs snd alcohol at the time and he would do things that would hurt him or other around him. During this time he ended up developing feeling for me and telling me that I'm the reason he is still here and wants to be with me to which i said i would because i did end up liking him back so we got together and it's been great but the issue is the past few months he been hinting at me becoming a sahm and dropping out college so he can provide for me.( I am a college student I'm studying to hopefully become a radiologist). So when people would ask me about school and all of that he would reply with "she won't be in school for longer" or " will be busy with our babies soon so she won't focus on school much longer" everytime he would say that I would ask him privately like why does he make those remarks and he would get defensive and or say " so you don't think im worthy of providing for you and my family? I thought you wanted kids and to be a mom? I am the man in this relationship so I should be providing for you while you stay home not stressing over school I see how much you been stressing and you wouldn't need to be like this if you just let me take care of you" now don't get me wrong one of my dreams is to be a mother and to have a loving family but one of my goals is to be stable in life so I can give my kids a good life and he knows that because of my past plus I worked so hard to get to where I am in school and I feel like he doesn't see it or just dismisses it because of his thing of me being home having kids and being his wife. It kinda feels like he wants to trap me into not leaving him ( he does have a fear of being abandon/being forgotten) cause when we do get intimate after he would kiss my stomach snd say "you finally can stay home not leave and i can provide for my babies. " It only started getting more worse recently because he would make me late to class, hide my books, hide my notes, mess up my work, one time he ripped my homework, and he would be more aggressive in bed so i won't be able to walk or ill be sore enough to were i would be uncomfortable after. This behavior and all if that is really taking a toll on my mental health and has much as I hate to say it I been thinking about breaking up with him because of all of this but I am scared to leave because im scared he will fall back into old habits, also I really do love him and care for himplus as i said before im very close to his family so I'm lost rn. I have talked to a close friend of mine about this snd they told me I would be an asshole and a dickhead if i leave him all because he wants to provide for me and make me a mother of his kids.

so please Am I the asshole because Im thinking about leaving my boyfriend all because wants to provide for me? And please give me advice on how to go about it cause I really don't want to leave him but I don't know how much longer I can handle this

Thank you!

Edit: Im am so very sorry I meant his brother's are twins his younger brother ( who are 20) I am best friends with we been friends since middle school I apologize English isn't my first language so my grammar is off a lot please forgive me :,)