I'm M 42 and I was dating F 37 single mother things where going great, I know her for years and unfortunately we had a falling out for a year or so because of my behavior and she got into a relationship with her child father. They broke up and I apologized for my behavior and all the horrible things I said to her.

For context (I'm in therapy now because how i treated her) she was in abusive relationship before she was seeing her daughter father. It was bad she was hiding bruises and his abuse for a long time. She wold talk about it occasionally. Then i found out she was pregnant, she suffered an early miscarriage. Then when she finally left him, she immediately started with her daughter father, and got pregnant again and came to me because she wasn't sure who the father was. I was dealing with my own problems and said "sounds like you have Maury Povich problem." She yelled at me and stop talking to me. I found out from a friend she had another miscarriage. She eventually had a child with her daughter father. They stayed together for a long time (five years). They broke up but she would not talk to me. 3 years ago I was dealing with some family issues and called her, she would only talk to me about the weather or traffic in a monotone unemotional voice. I was so mad I told her I'm about to have her locked because she acting weird and depressed and not being normal.

So we stop talking and I went to therapy and learned how horrible I was to her, I projected my own problems on her.

A few months ago we reconnected, I apologized for everything and told her what I did to get better and apologized and explained that in theory I discovered because I was hurt by other women I was projecting my pain into her. She finally agreed to give me a second chance. Everything was going good almost too good. So I pulled away and pushed her away to keep the relationship from moving to fast and keep the relationship where it was. Now every time I ask her to meet up she is busy, or she just wants to her own thing. Her favorite line now is; "oh I would ask you to hang out but you're so busy and it's not fair to you."

She dealing with things in her personal life and tells me oh I have a friend that I feel more comfortable talking about it with. She calls them her A-team, but won't let me in that group. She said that not fair to you to involve me.

How do I fix this I push her away because I didn't want to mess my second chance with her up; now she won't give me the time of day even when I make time for her. She won't talk to me about anything that upset her she call her "A-team" not me

What do I do?