I (M36) ended a 4-year relationship with my ex (F33) about a month ago after I found out she was cheating. Not just a one-time thing, there was lying, manipulation, and a whole bunch of gaslighting until I finally had enough and walked away. The breakup was messy, but I was done. And I honestly just feel free and happy now it's over.

Since then, I’ve reconnected with a girl I’ve known for a while. We weren’t all that close before, but we always got along, and there was definitely always an attraction there. Recently we started talking again, texting here and there, slowly building up to it being a daily thing and we're both on the same page and really happy just chatting and taking it slow to see where it goes.

Somehow, word got back to my ex (I'm not sure how, honestly think she may have got into my Facebook, yes password is now changed), and now she’s blowing up my phone accusing me of being “disrespectful,” “moving on too fast,” and acting like I'm somehow betraying her, even though I was fully loyal our entire relationship and it ended because she wasn't.

I even had my ex blocked everywhere and she's literally made new email accounts to call me out for being an asshole, like wtf is that about? I'd just started to feel more positive and like myself again, nothings even happened with this girl yet, we're just chatting and getting on and it's making me really happy but now this bitch has to crawl out the woodwork trying to drag me down again.

Am I, in anyway at all, the ah in this situation?