About a month ago, my daughter’s sister-in-law, Ari, suspected that my daughter was having an affair with a family friend named James. Ari brought it to the family’s attention. I confronted my daughter directly, and she completely denied it. I gave her a strong warning about how damaging an affair would be not just to her marriage but also to our family’s reputation. Her husband (my son-in-law) has always been good to her and to us. I reminded her of all his kindness and support. She assured me it was just a false accusation and promised she would never do such a thing.

I then went to speak to my son-in-law personally. I told him I believed it was it was a false accusation and that he shouldn’t let rumors ruin his marriage. After some deep talks, he agreed to move past it.

Fast forward to three weeks Iater i got a sudden call from my son-in-law telling me to come over immediately. He didn’t explain anything and hung up. I was scared and called my daughter, but my son in-law picked up instead, when i asked about my daughter he said she was fine, but my presence was needed.

When I got there, he showed me evidence: he had linked her WhatsApp to his phone and showed me some naughty chats between her and James, including a plan to meet at his house. She had lied to him that she was going to a friend’s place (Rose, a hairstylist) to get her hair done. The messages were explicit and set to disappear after 24 hours.

I was so ashamed and disappointed in her. After everything we talked about, after her denial and my defense of her, she still did it.

Now, my son-in-law is filing for divorce. A couple of days ago, my daughter came home crying, begging me to go with her to plead with her husband to reconsider. I told her no I'm not gonna do such thing. She betrayed not just her husband but everyone who stood up for her.

Later that evening, her friend Rose called me, saying I was being too harsh and that even if she did wrong, I should still show her love and support as a mother.

Please what do you think? I love my daughter, but I’m deeply hurt, and I don't think i should humiliate myself begging a man she betrayed not to leave her.