My lovely, kind and thoughtful big sis did a lot of drugs in her twenties and has spent her thirties not taking care of her teeth. They are rotten at the base, discoloured, blackened and chipped, her breath smells and she still smokes weed, and does seem to brush a good amount but I only see her like once a year.

She has undergone a lot of therapy to work through her issues surrounding her drug addiction and does no drugs other than weed and last year our divorced parents gave her a considerable amount of money to continue making improvements to her life (£24k).

I have no idea how she has spent her money, I know she’s paid off some debts and that she’s off work (expecting to get some benefits from the government soon), but says she’s eating well and looking after herself and still going to therapy and is actively dating after a rough breakup last year (around the time mh parents gave her the money). I was hoping she would use some of the money to fix her teeth but she hasn’t. I suspect she doesn’t know how expensive they are and I suspect she doesn’t realise how truly off putting they are.

Maybe I am the AH because I am being very vain about this, my partner (38m) has told me it’s not my place to say anything. But she is really wanting to find a long term partner (she is lesbian) but she lives in b*ttfck nowhere in a small town in France, with hardly any other lgbtq+ people and both laments not being able to find a partner and has been making strides in improving her life and lifestyle… except these awful teeth - and she has a lovely smile!

So yeah WIBTA for telling her she needs to fix her teeth because amongst her small dating pool, I suspect they’re likely to be put off??