My (28F) sister (31F) is getting married this fall, and the whole family is super excited. She’s been planning a pretty big bridal shower, and out of nowhere, she texted me saying, “We’ll do it at your house, it’s the best option!”

I was kind of stunned because she never actually asked — she just assumed. For context, yes, I do have a nice house with a decent backyard, but I work full time, I’m dealing with some personal stress, and honestly… I’m not really up for hosting 30+ people, decorating, cleaning before and after, etc. It’s a lot.

I called her and told her gently that I couldn’t take that on right now. I offered to help with planning or contribute financially toward renting a space, but I just didn’t want to host. She got super cold and said, “Wow, thanks for the support,” and hung up.

Later, my mom called and said I “hurt my sister’s feelings” and that “family steps up for each other during big moments.” I get it, but I also feel like I have a right to say no to turning my home into party central, especially without even being asked first.

Now I feel guilty, like maybe I should’ve just said yes. But also… it’s my house, my time, and my sanity.

So Reddit, AITA for refusing to host my sister’s bridal shower?