I've been with my girlfriend for four years. When we first got together we agreed that we both wanted to get married but said we both wanted to be together for at least 5 years before an engagement or anything as we were pretty young and both wanted to be in a career and have enough money for a nice wedding, engagement ring etc and be fairly settled so we could actually focus on planning the wedding.

We've both currently working full time while studying for work related exams which takes up a lot of our free time and we didn't want to be worrying about an engagement and planning a wedding while doing the exams.

We will both be fully qualified in 8-9 months which comes with a large payrise for both of us.

Last weekend my girlfriend brought up proposals. She asked why I hadn't proposed yet and I mentioned our previous conversation.

She said that doesn't matter and that I should be thinking about proposing. I just told her again we had reasons we wanted to wait and those reasons are still valid.

She said I'm clearly not serious about her but I just told her she can't change her mind about something and get angry when I don't agree with her.

She just said again that I'm obviously not serious about the relationship but I just told her being engaged or married doesn't prove commitment.

AITAH for not proposing earlier than agreed?