This weekend, a few friends and I [22F] were out at a big free event we’d all been excited about. My [22F] girlfriend was with us and had a couple of drinks ,nothing excessive. She seemed completely normal when she left for the bathroom, and my other friend can confirm that.

I’d asked her to text me when she got there. I stayed behind to keep an eye on another friend who actually has a history of blacking out (and has admitted to it), so I was trying to look out for everyone. My girlfriend, on the other hand, doesn’t usually have issues like that. this was the first time anything like this has happened.

When I didn’t hear from her and realized she wasn’t with any of the group, I started getting worried and went looking for her. Then she called me totally out of it, slurring her words, panicking, saying things like “they took me” and “help, come get me,” and that she was in some separate room.

When I got to the rooms, a bouncer wouldn’t let me in to where she was, and he didn’t speak any English, so I couldn’t even explain the situation. Eventually, I got in and found her she could barely keep her head up, was clearly super out of it, and not okay.

I called paramedics, stayed with her the whole time, and made sure she was safe. They said her vitals were okay, and that it was likely just a bad reaction to alcohol and her meds. (She’s on Wellbutrin which I’ve actually been on before while drinking and never had this kind of reaction, so it was a shock.)

We ended up missing the whole event. Later, some of our friends made me feel like it was my fault saying I shouldn’t have “let her drink” and shouldn’t have let her go to the bathroom alone acting like I was irresponsible or reckless .

But I was watching out for everyone, made a point to check in, acted immediately when I noticed something was off, and made sure no one was alone. No one would have known anything was wrong had I not noticed that something was happening. I can’t control what she drinks, and she wasn’t even drunk when she left. I did everything I could once things went sideways.

Edit: I realize I should have rephrased the title. They didn’t explicitly say I ruined the night, just made me feel like my gf becoming incapacitated was my fault.