This actually happened years ago but it’s always stayed in the back of my head. I still wonder if I did the right thing, especially because at the time it sounded like a no-brainer. I’ll be writing the story from my perspective at the time.

I (17M at the time) had been dating my (17NB at the time) then-boyfriend for about a year. They were a very reserved and introverted person, we both were, and we much preferred hanging out one-on-one. His family and I had a good relationship (we still do years later), and around a week and a half before my bf’s 18th birthday, their older sister texted me plans to throw them a surprise birthday party the day before their birthday and told me not to tell them.

Now, my boyfriend had actually predicted the surprise party beforehand, even before their sister reached out to me. They had told me that their family throws them a surprise birthday party EVERY and he hates it. They said they can’t even prepare because it’s not always on the same day. They had apparently talked to their family several times to discourage them from throwing a party, but they still did. So they specifically instructed me to please tell them the time and day of the surprise birthday party if any of their family members reached out to me.

As soon as I had the information from their sister, I immediately told my bf without a second thought. They thanked me, and then apparently went to their mom and sister to convince them to cancel the party. Like I said, I hadn’t thought twice, and I didn’t even realize I may have been in the wrong until their sister got angry at me for ruining the surprise and getting the party canceled. Only then did I have an “oops” moment, because I had pretty much betrayed her and her family’s trust. My boyfriend did end up convincing their mom not to throw the party and had a chill birthday hangout between us and a couple friends the way they wanted it to be.

My relationship with my bf’s family didn’t suffer besides their sister, but even between her and I things went back to normal pretty fast. Still, I think about if I actually did the right thing or if I should’ve done something else. So, WITA? Was I the asshole?