So I, 18F, have been friends with my best friend (we’ll call her Marianne), 18F, since we were 7. And we’ve gone to the same primary school and the same secondary school. And now we go to the same college.

For context, I get £10.00 weekly allowance from my uncle (41M) as well as an additional £27.00 from my college as part of bursary. I get this bursary because I’m classed as a vulnerable “child” (no longer a child but that’s how they categorise my kind of bursary) because my uncle has what’s known as a “Special Guardianship Order” over me, and because I live with my uncle who’s classed as my legal guardian.

So anyway, me and Marianne hang out during our breaks and dinner break at college, and there’s a Tesco down the road from my college. So, occasionally we go there to get snacks or drinks that they don’t sell at college.

For further context, Marianne receives £20.00 monthly from her dad which she spends within a day of receiving it. Until recently…

Last week, an ice cream van parked outside of our college and was selling ice cream because it was a hot day. Which is quite common in my area. Anyways, I saw Marianne lining up in front of the van getting ready to buy ice cream as she’d gotten her monthly £20.00 from her dad.

And then Marianne saw me, I was just stood a few feet away from the van vaping as I do during our breaks. And all of a sudden Marianne decided she no longer wanted to buy ice cream. So I asked her why and she said “because I don’t like spending my own money.”

So I jokingly respond with “But you like spending other people’s money?” And she said “Yes.”

For more context, ever since I started getting my weekly allowance from my uncle (I started getting that when I was 13). Marianne has asked me to buy her things from multiple shops before such as drinks or food. I never minded at first but then it started to bug me because she’d do it every single day. And when we started college, she also began asking our other friends to buy her things. And if she isn’t asking people to buy her things, she asks people for some of their drinks or their food.

Unfortunately for me, I have problems saying no to people and my family have often described me as a “people pleaser.” So I’d always say yes even when I didn’t want to.

Now fast forward again to last week, Marianne asked me if she could have a sip of my drink. And when she’s asked that before, it’s never been just a sip, she’s always drank half of my drink that was supposed to last me all day (9 am to 4 pm). So on this one occasion, I said “No, get your own.”

For additional context: Marianne never brings food or drinks to college because she expects me to give her my food or my drink. And every time I call her out on it she just responds with “Oh I forgot” or “Oh I didn’t have time to”

So anyways, she got mad at me for saying no and then asked me to buy her one then, to which I again, said no. She then got even angrier at me and said “Oh but you always have loads of money! Why won’t you buy me something?”

Now she isn’t speaking to me. AITA because some friends are saying I should’ve gotten her a drink because “that’s what friends do” and some friends say I was in the right for saying no to her. So I’m unsure of whether I’m in the wrong for saying no or not.