I (F15) live with my parents (F45-M-50) and my big sister (F21), me and my sister never had that relationship that normally siblings have, in fact between cousins we are known for fighting over basically everything.

And maybe it seems like i’m trying to make myself the victim but believe me when i say that its always my sisters fault.

Lets start with the fact that she has this childish and rude behavior towards everyone, because of the fact that she is hot-tempered and self centered she expects us little cousins to do everything for her and to agree with her in everything.

Now i’ll say that she at least doesn’t yell at you when she asks you a favor, but if you refuse she’ll throw a tantrum.

And we fight a lot because i tend to respond right away to her and usually we just end up throwing hands, also we have been doing that for years now until i started fighting back and they have become big fights, (i pull her hair.)

One time she smashed my tablet on the ground because I hadn’t prepared lunch for her, and she even tried to beat up my mon when she was swatting her ass. And we always have to get my father involved because she’s “””afraid””” of him. Because of this i hate everything about her.

And also when we’re around her friends or boyfriend or cousins we don’t see much she’ll put up this “bad b” attitude that literally no one likes.

Said this i’ll get to the point, today at lunch we were at my house with my cousin and my cousins best friend, we start talking and suddenly my sister brings up the fact that i am “spoiled” (she always does this), now i’ll be honest because our parents have bought me two pair of expensive shoes (100€-79€) and a new phone(i had my first phone 4 years before this one is my second one) this year, but the fact that really gets me is that whenever i ask to order something i always leave the money on the kitchen counter just to see them still there the day after because my parents didn’t take them.

And i always say that if they don’t want to get something for me i will gladly save money to buy it (it makes my mom feel awful because she wants to give me what she wasnt able to have when she was my age) and unlike my sister i can take a no as an answer.

I told her that at least i offered to pay for my own things but she just kept over and over again saying to my cousins best friend how spoiled i was, my cousin even made up how she saw a “chat” with my dad on my phone were i’d only send him shein links and amazon links and such, implying i only use them for money.

She then said it was a joke but i really didn’t take it as such. Knowing how she knew that my sister always liked to say how spoiled i was I don’t know why she would say that. Honestly I don’t even know what her best friend thinks of me now.

That night I confronted my sister and asked her why would she say such a thing to a person we barely know.

She pretended not to understand and I clarified, she then said because i was, and i POLITELY explained how i wasnt spoiled and that our parents only wanted to take care of me (keep in mind that this lady made me grow self-conscious issues whenever someone bought something for me)

She denied everything i said so i straight up told her that i hated her. She didn’t believe me so i told her:

“I hate how immature and stupid you are for a 21 yo, i hate how you always bring me down in everything i do or ask, and i hate you for always making me feel like I don’t belong here.”

She was speechless. The next morning my mom said i should’ve apologized to her.

So AITA?