Context: We aren’t officially together, but we’ve been “talking” long distance for around 6 months. We want to test the waters in person before making that exclusivity decision, though neither of us have been talking to anyone else. We met online through a community we’ve both been part of for years, but missed each other until recently.

Anyway, over the last few months, due to busy periods and both being in serious flux states in our lives, we’ve been talking a lot less, especially less calling. It was bothering be before, I felt lonely, especially when some serious things went on in my personal life 3-4 weeks ago. Then, about two weeks ago, his friend died (self-inflicted), and honestly I’ve been doing everything I can to help without being overbearing. It really deeply upset him and we barely talked because he needed space, and honestly I understand that, even if yeah I still feel lonely — some things are more important than my shifting emotions you know?

Situation: He was finally ready to call Wednesday, but postponed it last minute because he wasn’t feeling well. We rescheduled for today, and about an hour before the call, he said he couldn’t do it again because dinner with friends turned into hanging out. I told him it was fine.

However, I did say this: “and just. tell me when a good time is for you, when know, alright? I know you’ve got a lot going on and I feel for that. But I also don’t want to keep asking and having it fall through.”

I’m worried it was too much. He’s going through a lot and I don’t want to be a burden or push him away. I’m just also a little bit hurt. He didn’t really apologize beyond a “sorry” and I can’t really tell if he knows or cares that I’m disappointed. He didn’t offer a day to reschedule either, he just didn’t reply to that last message.

Idk. His friend literally just died. AITA for letting my feelings about this show in such a tumultuous time?

(Really hoping he is not on this sub either ;; I was gaslit a lot as a teenager and have a tough time sorting my emotions. That’s all I’m trying to do.)